Have you ever wondered how life is stingy when it comes to giving you, but is so enthusiastic about taking it away? How making friends is so difficult, but once you are going down, every friend just seems to walk away like you were a leper? How faith, trust, love is so pricey and difficult to have in life, and yet, so fragile and temporary in most cases?
How your best friends can swear by you, and yet, suddenly, all those promises mean nothing when they decide to walk out?
Take Sourav Ganguly - one day he was a hero, and the darling of the nation. The day he picked up a quarrel with Chappel, not a single person supported him. Suddenly, he was the untouchable, shunned even by his life long mentor Dalmiya? How his team mates suddenly realised he was a bad influence in the dressing room, how the media turned against the "arrogant" cricketer who thought he was king, when this same "arrogance" was heaped with praises when he won the Natwest tournament, and took on the Pakis and the Aussies, beating them at their own psychological games?
Why - why does the world hit you when you are down? Why don't your friends stand by you, why don't your mentors give you that support you need when you really, most need it?
Maybe this is Darwin's survival of the fittest at work - what better way to eliminate you when you are already weak? It's almost like you are prey, the world waiting like a vulture for that first stumble, that first mistake, that first sign of weakness - before it goes for your throat....
Scared? Be so. Only the paranoid survive.
5 comments:
Well, life is like that only.
And relying on someone other than yourself for support/comfort is the biggest mistake one does (that is what I have learnt).
On a lighter vein, Ganguly has to figure out everywhere kya!!
Good example though..
People change and forget to tell each other.. and we are usually caught unaware :)
That's a sad way of living!
You cannot be paranoid and enjoy life and be happy.. its probably about understanding who is your friend and who is not and how much you need to be dependent on them.
One friend will swear by you and them by 2 more. You might not even know where you stand in line of importance with that friend who swears by you. Its not really the swearing and the words that matters really, its the action.
Maybe that is why we have a distinction between a friend and family because for family you are the no 1 and only 1!
Anonymous, that's the problem isn't it? You still need to trust someone, whether it is family or friend - it's all about trust at the end of the day. What happens when you do that, and when that trust is broken by the one person or persons you thought would be the last person on earth to break it?
With enemies, you can anticipate and plan for it.
With friends and family, what do you do?
Be paranoid, and be prepared - right?
At the end of the day, you have to trust someone and let go. Be it family or friend, living with the fear of being let down by someone you trust, will make you unhappy and always dissatisfied in your relationships.
From my experiences, I believe, its best to trust completely and let go. If you are let down, get upset\angry, learn the lesson, but eventually move on and take a chance again of trusting someone. After all, we progress in life by taking chances isn't it? :)
Living in fear of being betrayed in a relationship, and not trusting your friend/partner is degrading your relationship and is probably not worth it then.
-Namita
What you are saying is true, Namita - but the way I look at it, maybe it's best not to expect and then be let down, rather than keep feeding your optimism with hope, only to be hurt more every single time!
I know I am being very pessimistic - and that's not me! - but there are times when life really shakes your basic foundations and beliefs...
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